OBDI Resources
OBDI Resource Centre
For men who were never given space to speak, support can start here.
Find trusted resources, honest conversations, and support organisations created to help male survivors, loved ones, and communities understand trauma, reduce isolation, and take one safe next step.
Start here
Start with what feels most steady today.
There is no single right way to begin. You may want to learn, reach out for support, or better understand how to be there for someone else. Choose the path that fits this moment.
I need language for what I experienced.
Explore plain-language resources that can help name trauma, reduce shame, and make sense of feelings that may have been difficult to explain.
I am ready to look for support.
Find survivor-centred organisations, helplines, and practical resources that can help you decide what feels safe and possible next.
I care about someone who may be hurting.
Learn how to listen, believe, and offer support without pressure, blame, or the need to have perfect words.
Understand your experience
Understanding can make the weight feel less isolating.
Many survivors spend years trying to make sense of what happened, how it affected them, and why certain feelings still show up. These resources offer a grounded place to begin.
ACE Score Test
The ACE Score Test helps people reflect on difficult childhood experiences and how those experiences may shape health, relationships, emotions, and long-term wellbeing.
A score does not define anyone, and it is not a diagnosis. It can simply offer language for a deeper conversation with a qualified professional or trusted support service.
Trauma, healing, and recovery resources
Explore resources that explain trauma responses, shame, relationships, emotional regulation, and healing in language that feels human, respectful, and easy to return to.
- What happened was not your fault.
- Healing can look different across cultures, families, communities, and individual lives.
- Support is still available, even when someone is not ready to share every detail.
Find help and support
Support should not be hard to find when someone is ready.
When someone is ready to reach out, they should not have to search through noise. These links offer starting points for support, advocacy, crisis help, and survivor-centred care.
New York City Alliance Resource Guide
A New York-based guide with support categories, survivor services, and practical places to begin when looking for help.
Visit Guide1in6
Confidential support, education, and community resources for men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault.
Visit 1in6MaleSurvivor
A survivor-led space offering support, advocacy, community connection, and resources for men healing from sexual trauma.
Visit MaleSurvivorRAINN
A national sexual assault support organisation with hotline access, survivor education, and guidance for loved ones.
Visit RAINNWatch and listen
Stories and conversations can help people feel less alone.
Videos, interviews, and podcasts can give survivors and supporters another way to listen, learn, and connect with experiences that may feel familiar.
Iyanla: Fix My Life
Watch selected Iyanla: Fix My Life videos connected to survivor stories, difficult conversations, healing, and the impact of trauma.
Podcast and interview library
Explore OBDI conversations, live chats, interviews, and story-led discussions that open space for honesty, reflection, and community learning.
Books for survivors
Books can offer language, reflection, and a private place to begin.
This reading list can support survivors, loved ones, and community members who want to understand trauma and healing at their own pace.
Understanding Trauma
Add a recommended title for readers who are beginning to understand trauma, body responses, memory, shame, and survival.
Link coming soonHealing After Abuse
Add a recommended title for readers working through grief, anger, numbness, trust, relationships, and the slow work of recovery.
Link coming soonSupport for Loved Ones
Add a recommended title for partners, relatives, friends, mentors, and community members who want to respond with care.
Link coming soonFor families and supporters
The way we respond can help someone feel believed.
For many survivors, being believed is a powerful first step. These reminders can help loved ones respond with patience, dignity, and respect for choice.
Listen without asking them to prove it
Let the survivor decide what they want to share and when. Listening with care matters more than asking for the full story.
Use words that make safety clear
Simple phrases can matter: “I believe you,” “It was not your fault,” “I am here with you,” and “You get to choose what happens next.”
Protect their privacy and their choices
Do not share someone’s story for them. Support should help a survivor regain choice, not take choice away.
No one should have to carry this in silence.
This resource centre is here to help visitors find language, connection, and trusted support, one step at a time.